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Are You Man Enough?

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On May 26th, 2019 in Port Elgin at the Queen’s Bar & Grill, an ever-increasing number of men are joining in the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes® campaign to speak out against rape, sexual assault and gender violence towards women. The annual event provides a unique and fun opportunity to bring attention to a very serious subject, raise money for the local Women’s shelters and be part of an international movement to end violence against women.  Registration will start at noon with the opening ceremonies beginning at 1 pm.

One in every four women is abused. That means someone you know, someone you care about, has been or may become a victim of abuse. It may be your mother, your sister, your friend, one of your employees/co-workers or your daughter. Seventy-five percent of Canadian men feel it is important to speak out against gender based violence. Many are doing so through the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes®, not just talking the talk, but walking the walk donning red high-heeled shoes.

Your local women’s shelter needs your help.  Women’s House Serving Bruce & Grey (WHSBG) is a high-security shelter for abused women and their children. We never close, provide emergency and short term shelter, counseling and support free of charge.

Monies raised from Walk a Mile in Her Shoes® ensure shelter services always remain open 24/7 and free of charge.

If you are wanting to “walk the walk, and talk the talk,” you will find  links to the Walker’s Form and the Pledge Sheet.  Please fill out the Walker’s Form, for yourself as an individual or for your team, and send to mlamont@whsbg.on.ca.  The next step is to start collecting pledges and having great conversations about how you will end violence against women!

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Walkers Registration Form – 2019

Pledge Sheet.2019

Here are the men “Walking the Walk” on May 26, 2019!

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Mark Gillespie & Jason Vascotto – Abraflex

Mark and Jason are walking to support women, raise awareness and raise money for Women’s House on May 26, 2019

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Greg Thede – E.S. Fox Limited

I am walking with the support of E.S. Fox to end gender-based violence and to promote gender equality and healthy relationships. Participating in the event creates community awareness which will hopefully lead to prevention and a whole new outlook of masculinity.

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Jordan Beirnes

I am participating in the “Walk a Mile in Her Shoes” because I believe that all men have a role to play when it comes to ending violence against women. Men must speak up and lead by example: we need to mentor and teach young boys about how to be men in ways that don’t involve degrading or abusing girls and women. Society’s acceptance of attitudes and behaviours that degrade women and promote violence against women are part of the problem; I want my daughters and nieces to grow up in a safer society where sexual harassment and sexual violence has nowhere to hide. I will walk a mile in her shoes to improve the future for the women and girls in our society.

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Michael McBean

I am walking to support the message that men must respect and understand the value of women, their worth, and their equality.

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Craig Walker – Aecon/Shoreline Power Group

I live in a family with many strong women I am proud of. I feel there is a need to raise awareness in today’s changing society about violence against women. We have many cultures and definitions of people in our community that didn’t exist a generation ago. I feel anything we can do to raise awareness and resources towards is positive.

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Jeff Phelps, Kevin Schmidt, Ted Wilfong, Brock Leighton, Steven Bell, Roy Martin, Steve Rate, Jeff Kerker, Chris Bland & Neil MacLeod – MCR Milestone Metres

The MCR Milestone Metres are walking for the following reasons:
  • to support victims of abuse
  • to raise awareness (and money) to support the cause
  • supporting a great cause
  • proud to spread awareness while providing support to a group of incredibly strong women
  • I believe that fair and reasonable treatment of women world-wide is the most important human rights issue of our time
  • to be an example for my daughter and son and show them that it is important to get involved in issues that are important to them
  • happy to show support for zero tolerance for sexual violence and putting some focus on the issue through a humorous event
  • in solidarity we can bring the issue of violence against women into the light

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Jim Muraida – Sargent & Lundy

I believe in the cause. I’ve done work with my church at Daybreak, which is a Catholic charities home for single mothers in the Chicago area. I miss helping and want to help.

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Darryl Perrault, Graydon Ruff & Mike McRae – Tiverton Good Timers

Violence against anyone should not be tolerated. People who need help need to see that people care about them.

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Paul Clark, Ryan Eyre, Chad MacLean, Shannon Douglas, Trevor Beck, Colin Morano, Robert Ayres, Jordan Marshall , Sushank Saha, Ken Thomson, Terry Rothmaier, Gord Kozak, Ryan Hindle, Ian Beith, Adrian London, Marty Will, Dave Andrews, James Scongack, Barry Hall, Mark Zorzi & Rob McIntosh – Bruce Power Frolicking Fellows

The Bruce Power Team – Frolicking Fellows are walking for the following reasons:
  • to help open dialogue on violence against women
  • to show support to women and to reinforce that violence is not OK
  • to support the important work that Women’s House does in our community
  • to help raise awareness of this cause and support it
  • to show support to victims of gender violence and to be an example for my young sons
  • I am completing this walk so that my two daughters and wife, and other daughters and wives can someday have this level of confidence, to be themselves in this world

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Chris Turcotte

I have taken part in this event for the past 6 years and each year more and more awareness is brought to this cause. This is a subject that happens everywhere, and it has no location boundaries.  It is estimated that 1 in 4 female friends, family members, or acquaintances are a victim of sexualized violence from a man.

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Kevin Smith, Dave Trumble & Nic Lovell – Grey Bruce Labour Council

The Grey Bruce Labour Council Group is walking to support women on May 26, 2019

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Allan Thompson

I am the Liberal Party of Canada candidate in Huron-Bruce for the upcoming federal election and feel very strongly about the need for our local political leaders to advocate forecefully, and publicly on the issue of gender violence. I agree wholeheartedly with your premise that gender relations and sexual violence can be difficult issues for some people to confront. So all the better to get people talking with a fun event like Walk A Mile in Her Shoes. I will be spreading the word about this event on my social media platforms as a way to support the work of Women’s House.

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David Duff

David is walking because he believes in supporting women who are in bad relationships and need assistance.

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Steven Travale – on behalf of MPP Thompson/MP Lobb

I’m pleased to be participating in the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes for the first time this year, on behalf of our MPP for Huron-Bruce, Lisa Thompson and MP for Huron-Bruce Ben Lobb. Supporting women and addressing the issue of violence against women is something that matters to our elected officials here in this riding, and to me personally as well. I look forward to walking a mile in her shoes this Sunday with others for a worthy cause.

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To support any of our walkers with online pledges, please visit our Canada Helps donation site! 

The court of public appeal is now open on sexual assault

(Original article found on ShorelineToday.ca)

The court of public appeal is now open on sexual assault.
That was the title of a letter to the editor from the Women’s House Serving Bruce and Grey that was given to myFM. They say they were compelled to write the letter as more woman come forward with claims of sexual abuse from former CBC radio star Jian Ghomeshi. In the letter, they talk about the fact that abuse doesn’t just exist in the world but in our own backyard here in Grey Bruce. During the first six months of this year the centre has served 441 local women and 57 children along with 3,682 crisis and support related calls. They also wanted to address a question asked by many who wondered why the woman accussing Ghomeshi of abuse didn’t come forward sooner. In the letter they say only 33 cases of abuse out of 1000 are actually reported to police.
The letter:
The court of public opinion is now open on sexual assault
This week you most likely heard and perhaps even struggled to come to terms with the recent Jian Ghomeshi allegations. It’s been difficult to listen to, read about and process. We’d rather believe that abuse simply does not exist in our world, but at the Women’s House Serving Bruce and Grey (WHSBG) we know all too well that it does. In the first six months of this year we have served 441 women and 57 children, with 3,682 crisis and support related calls.
The news of the Ghomeshi scandal spread quickly throughout social media. As the story progressed it gave us all an opportunity to think about how we as a society deal with matters of sexual abuse. People were talking about the unthinkable and the unspeakable, discussing sexual abuse around water coolers and in lunch rooms. The court of public opinion finally opened up to discuss sexual abuse, something that in our opinion was long overdue. The story falls within Woman Abuse Awareness month in Ontario, making it very timely for us to respond.
There are many different aspects of this story that we could address, however we found the question we read on Facebook and Twitter over and over again most troubling, “Why did these women not report the abuse to police right away?”
Let’s first start with the full picture provided to us by YWCA Canada. Out of every 1,000 sexual assaults, 33 are reported to police, 12 have charges laid, 3 lead to a conviction, allowing 997 assailants to walk free.
Why are only 33 cases out of every 1,000 reported to police? Well the short answer is because it is very difficult. Before a trial begins, sometimes years after the abuse took place, a woman lives in fear of her assailant, that he might retaliate. She finds it difficult not to feel ashamed when family, friends and acquaintances react with embarrassment or discomfort. She must deal with judgement, online comments, people questioning why she is doing this from loved ones that simply don’t understand. She is afraid of having her privacy invaded and often times afraid of how this will affect her career. It becomes far more about her than the assailant.
If the case goes to trial, she must withstand gruelling cross-examination with questions probing into the most intimate details of her life, in front of loved ones, if she is lucky enough to have support. It’s humiliating at best and just plain cruel at its worst. She must relive the abuse over and over again to the police, to the Crown Attorney, in pre-trial preparation and in the public eye during cross-examination.
How much simpler would it be to just try and forget it ever happened and walk away? Women do put themselves through this process to make sure their assailant never has an opportunity to abuse another woman. All for that nine percent who are reported and actually get convicted. And yet we still ask why.
At WHSBG we offer a safe shelter for women who have suffered abuse and their children; we counsel by telephone, in groups and in person to help those affected by abuse move on with their lives in a healthy way. We encourage all women to get counselling to help deal with their abuse and will walk with them through their journey whether they choose to remain silent or to press charges. You may call toll free 1-866-578-5566 to access compassionate and caring counselling.
The courage of a woman alone is not enough. During this month of Woman Abuse Awareness, we invite you to wear a purple scarf and show your support for abused women and children across Ontario. Wrapped in Courage purple scarves can be purchased for $15.00 at the following stores: Nine Waves in Lucknow & Kincardine, Curves in Kincardine, I Want That Bag Consignment in Lucknow, Belle of the Boudoir in Port Elgin, TNA Clothing in Paisley (remember they’ve moved next door to former Joannie’s Fashions), MacDonald’s Plus Ladies Wear and Amazing Assets in Walkerton, Suits Us in Hanover, Sisters on Huron and Trends Hair Salon in Southampton. All profits will go towards funding the many programs WHSBG offers to women and children in our community.
We are also participating in the Shine the Light on Women’s Abuse Campaign to raise awareness of woman abuse by shining a purple light in or on your house or business to stand in solidarity with abused women and help them understand that any shame or blame they may feel does not belong to them, but to the perpetrator of their abuse. Let’s turn Bruce and Grey purple this month to show our support to women experiencing abuse.
We at the WHSBG appreciate the support we get from our community. We value your support which enables us to keep doing the good work we do every day to achieve our goal to end abuse.
For more information please visit our website at www.whsbg.on.ca or if in crisis call 519-396-3655 or 911. Services are free for counselling programs, telephone support or to stay in the shelter. On behalf of the Board and Staff of Women’s House Serving Bruce & Grey
Cheryl Cottrill
Chair of the Communications Committee

Teens and Technology

You, as the parent, are sometimes feeling a little lost when it comes to technology and your children.  This PowerPoint presentation was put together by Ottawa Police and will bring you up to speed on how to deal with Sexting, Cyber-Bullying and Online Predators.  The safety of your teen is important!  Get informed and take control.  Click here.